Thanks for your continued thoughts on this matter. I have tried to assuage her guilt at every possible occasion and perversely when I do that her mood gets better and she even warms up to me a little bit. Hence my move here to let her go. The more I try to keep our bonds together the more unhappy she gets.
Here is the catch. In order to keep her happy I have to help her feel less guilty and hence let her know that what she is doing here (i.e. breaking up our M and family etc.) is okay. On the other hand I desperately want to keep my family together. I can't seem to win! Does anyone have any insight into how to resolve this dynamic? I guess it is not under my control...I know that is what you are all going to say. I am frustrated that there is no way to stop this runaway train towards divorce. But, aren't we all ?
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The 3 laws of DBing:
1. PMA is critical to DBing.
2. Since drop in WAW's PMA leads to drop in LBS's PMA and vice-versa detachment is critical.
3. Validate to raise WAW's PMA and GAL to raise LBS's.
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