Thanks for your input on the mortgage issue. I see that all of you, and others off the bb that I have spoken to seem to think that I should just go ahead and do the paperwork to relieve her of her name on the mortgage. I have great pain as I do this - it was our first home, in the first year or so we painted all the rooms together, spent days picking colors, our D3 was brought home to it and laid on the bed that I sleep on- I seem to have so many sentimental attachments. My W has none, how the heck can this be?
Well, I emailed my W this morning letting her know that I will go ahead and initiate the paperwork necessary next week to refinance the house in my name. I have no choice. This is what she wants and I don't want to fight about it with her. If an easy divorce is what she wants so she can move on with her life, I will give it to her. I cannot control her and do not want to control her. It just causes both of us more pain. The divorce in inevitable anyway and I think "what you resists persists". So I am going with her flow. I would actually like to split the assets (equity) associated with the house and plan to broach the issue with her when the paperwork comes up. So far she does not want to do any money-splitting (too painful?). Although a large part of the payments on the house were made by me, since she was on part-time employment earlier on and did not make as much money as I did, I feel it is not fair for me to just keep everything on the house. But she wants to avoid guilt more than anything.
I am entering into a really tough pre-D period here folks. One of my friends said "eat your veggies". Well, I am preparing to join your elite veggie-enriched club....
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The 3 laws of DBing:
1. PMA is critical to DBing.
2. Since drop in WAW's PMA leads to drop in LBS's PMA and vice-versa detachment is critical.
3. Validate to raise WAW's PMA and GAL to raise LBS's.
