"She has so much guilt about this that she's willing to give up everything." - You said it, absolutely. The guilt is just killing her. I dont know how to deal with it. It is almost as if teh feeling of guilt so overwhelms her that she has no emotional space for any other feeling!
Anyway, this whole splitting mode where I get to keep everything was her idea, not mine and I have not agreed to anything. You know, I was trying to argue with her during the "Independence day" convo that we should split everything evenly. I don't really want anything from her including a D!! I am prepared to give her anything she wants from the house really, including the damn house. What good is it to me now - too many memories.... But what she wants is to not go through the process of actually splitting things because that would be too painful. She just wants to check out of the M like it is a hotel or something, i.e. leave the furniture, towels, dishes (including our wedding China), pictures (including our D3'd baby pictures which she has not looked at for almost 2 years now, our wedding pictures etc.). She just wants to erase the last 10 years of her life and move on to a bigger and better one. Like just trading up fro a new car, huh? When asked why initially she gave me a laundry list of things that were just bad about me, suming it all up by saying "you are weird"! Well, for the last year, it has been that she has "changed". Can anyone make sense of this statement - "you have been good for me in many ways, but I have changed". The classic "it's not you, it's me" cop-out that one cannot counter. Oh well, I am just ranting here....The MLC-WAW mind has no logic in it.
My WAW just wants to check out of real life for a while...And she wants me to make it happen with as little pain as possible for her. I have no choice but to comply.
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The 3 laws of DBing:
1. PMA is critical to DBing.
2. Since drop in WAW's PMA leads to drop in LBS's PMA and vice-versa detachment is critical.
3. Validate to raise WAW's PMA and GAL to raise LBS's.
