Hi All:

Evaluating progress on goals at the end of two weeks:

0. Act happy, Be happy - 80% success. Doing okay here. PMA slightly low this week due to W's withdrawal and I have engaged in minor pursuit- need to get that under control.

1. Move on in every single way. Apply zero pressure. Do nothing R-wise. Stay still and calm.
- I applied pressure a couple of times this week. Not good news. This needs to stop. I have been doing better in the last couple of days.


2. Be extremely friendly with W at every contact, be upbeat and positive. - This I have been, maybe too friendly. Yuck, need to stop acting needy.


3. Continue to pursue GAL activities (training for marathon, tennis, reading, spending time with D3, travel for pleasure- will go see friends). Spruce up wardrobe and look well-put-together.
- Made a lot of progress here. New clothes. W refused to acknowledge the new clothes! She prided herself at one time on picking out my clothes for me. So this is definitely a moving-on strategy for me. I have started to train for my marathon.


4. Act as if D is not happening or if it is I am fine with it.
- This one I have succeeded in, to the extent that when W says things that indicate that she is now my X effectively I simply let it pass and dont respond. I feel like she is actually testing me this week by saying things in that vein repeatedly.

5. Get a lot of sleep and be well rested.
- sleep's been good.

6. Get in touch with good friends and enjoy their company, both in person and on telephone.
- Oh yeah, I have been doing this intensely in the past two weeks.

7. Keep a high profile and goal-oriented at work.
- Getting there. I still seem to be locking myself in my room too much. I need to keep my door open and be more outgoing.

8. Need to add some intrigue (no idea how).
- Trying out an experiment today. I have left out two wineglasses on the counter and have an extra-clean house. Last night was my night off from takin care of D3. W usually really checks out everything so I am not sure what impact this will have. Just curious (for fun).

Am planning on buying some men's cologne today. Havent worn one in ages, but maybe step in the right direction anyway.

OK. Will file weekend report. Take care all.

UD



The 3 laws of DBing: 1. PMA is critical to DBing. 2. Since drop in WAW's PMA leads to drop in LBS's PMA and vice-versa detachment is critical. 3. Validate to raise WAW's PMA and GAL to raise LBS's.