You are right you will have relaspes, but as H continues to show he is reaching out to you and continues to make positive steps the relaspes will be further and further apart. I think these are good signs. I think it is a good sign that he is looking for a transfer. So next time you begin to dwell on h working with OW. Force yourself to STOP and concentrate on a positive that you and H have had, focus on the fact he is looking for a transfer. Those are positive thoughts that he is making a effort towards your R. Take care and remember the STOP technique. I still have relaspes but STOP does help me as does writing and reading on this site. Take care.
