Quote: What if you decided not to decide...not to act right now? But instead spent time with h, doing things that make you both feel positively and as if you are moving in a good direction?
Very sound advice, Sage...thank you!! I guess I need to toss my usual way of thinking out the window and take things in baby steps! I'm so accustomed to having a goal in sight, and working toward that goal. I'm bad at letting things happen to determine the end result...but I'm going to work on it!!
Quote: I know this is really hard, but I would look at sharing the text msg with you as a good step on H's part. Maybe each day you will continues to see a baby step that H is making. And then you will begin to trust a little more each day.
This is what I was thinking/feeling, Golfer. That my husband is trying to reach out and prove to me that I can trust him again. My husband, like yours, works with the other woman. I think if this weren't the case, the rebuilding of trust might be easier. The fact that he spends 8-10 hours a day with her, and I could sit and wonder/question how many times he talks to her, sits by her, etc.... puts doubt in my head that become destructive. He's been working at finding a new position within the company, away from her. Last night he told me about some opportunities that are out there, and some of the things he's doing to try to be transferred out. This made me feel good again, like the night of the text message. I appreciated how he was reaching out to me, and telling me the things he's doing to change the situation.
I'm feeling much stronger about our situation. I'm sure I'll have my relapses again, and start to doubt and start to wonder, and it's at those moments I need to remember these things, the things he's doing and done to make me feel good about our relationship.
Thank you for listening and responding, Sage and Golfer! I truly appreciate it!!
