This is a tough one. I have been back and forth many times myself - it is really really hard. I'm really trying, but I still wonder as I'm sure you do. But, you are becoming a stronger person.
And I think the fact that he shared the text msg with you is a great sign! He is tyring to be open with you, he knows that is important to do. So although this may be a baby step for H, I think it is a good sign that he wants to open up, he wants to try to make you feel he is opening up, he may be trying to move beyond hiding things - all very good signs. It may be a step he is taking to re-establish trust and open-ness. I know this is really hard, but I would look at sharing the text msg with you as a good step on H's part. Maybe each day you will continues to see a baby step that H is making. And then you will begin to trust a little more each day. Good luck and keep db'ing. In the end it will be worth it because you will become a happier person. Take care.
