Difficult to move on and work on my marriage

[sage]

Kimiko,

Ah, what a wonderful story on so many different levels!

Now I'm so incredibly unsure again. I asked him to stop packing stuff...and that I wanted to give us more of a try. Am I wrong for that? Is it wrong for me to keep pushing him away and pulling him back? I know it isn't fair to him, but I can't help thinking I need to do what feels right to me.

I'm just a heap of scattered emotions, and now I'm wondering if I even have a clue about what is good/right for me!!!

Any opinions?

My suggestion? You don't have to decide NOW and you sure don't have to act on the feelings that you have exactly when you have them...IOW, it's completely understandable that you would have highs and lows or ebbs and flows, so to speak, regarding your feelings and even that you would change your mind on a dime.

What if you decided not to decide...not to act right now? But instead spent time with h, doing things that make you both feel positively and as if you are moving in a good direction?

I know "limbo" can be hard to live with but so can making a rush decision and living with the impact.

Sage