Quote: You don't PUT yourself in positions where sin is likely. In a marriage, that means you don't have friendships with the opposite sex that don't include your spouse, you don't hang out with people who have bad values and do bad things, you don't put yourself in positions where it is likely you will slip.
Perfectly put. I have figured one thing out so far. The more I expose myself to these situations, the more trouble I will likely find myself in. I am going to really change the way that I behave on the road. For one, less drinking. Drinking should be done with friends and can only cause some trouble when I'm having dinner by myself at a bar. For two, I am going to pick up dinner a lot more and take it back to my hotel room.
Everybody's advice has made me feel a little better. Thank you. I am going to talk to a counselor and see where this came from. I feel a little uncomfortable though because I still feel like I'm sneaking around. How do I go about hiring a counselor and keep it from my wife? Is that any less wrong than cheating? Shouldn't she know everything about me, good and bad? I'm still really hung up on this notion. I know I need some professional advice, but I still feel like a liar in seeking it. Any help?
Lastly KML, thanks for the thoughts on health safety. I have already considered doing those things. In fact, I almost have to if I'm going to keep this from my wife. If something happened down the road, I wouldn't have any choice but to tell her.
Let me just say one more thing, I really do feel pain from this act I committed. I can only imagine what some of you that have responded must feel on the other end. Let me just say that I am very sorry. Having gone through countless emotions over the past week, I can tell you that I would not wish that misery upon anyone. So to all of you who have been hurt, consider hope and happier days. Also, know that THIS man feels a little bit of guilt for each of you. I feel shamed in your presence as an adulterer.
But thanks, most of all, for taking some time out of your day to relay some marriage saving information.
