JV Sorry you are going through this. Try to keep strong.

The best advice I could think to give you is to be distant right now. Don't call him or make any contact. If he calls I would limit it to only the kid's. Let him sit and think for awhile. Let him wonder what you are up to. Let him see that you are getting on with your life. This may be the thing that is finally a breaking point for him.

If he asks to come home I would say no just for awhile. This would be the perfect opportunity to let him know that you deserve better and that you do want happiness in your life. Not meanly but letting him know that you do have boundaries that need to be met or else you will just move on.

To me it sounds like your husband does love you. He is just a very selfish person. This may be what it akes for him to see what he is really missing. But he can't miss it if you constantly call him or take his calls. Let him miss you for awhile.