Trying to find our way to happiness II

[ValerieA]

Hey, D. Thank you for your concern, and I totally understand it. Unfortunately, yes, the two biggest things to H it seems are the poker and drinking.

The poker has been an issue for the past couple of years, but it's been tolerable. The frequent drinking just started after the baby's birth, and it progressed more and more. I don't like it at all, but if there's anything I should be "happy" about, then it should be that at least H doesn't get out of control. He will drink and then pass out.

mollie, I definitely plan on sitting down with H and making an agreement with him that the $5K is all that will be risked.

H and I have separate accounts already -- he has everything, he has it all. I'm given a couple grand every month to take care of the bills, etc, and if I should need more then he'll give it to me. Not always happily though . This just works for us.

I know all the account numbers and all the passwords so I can check on things anytime I want to. I have looked from time to time, and everything is just as it should be.

I know he has this problem, but as hard as it may be to believe, I honestly feel and know that H is very responsible when it comes to our $$$. He is just too proud of what he has accomplished with it to lose it in any kind of way.

Ok, I'm not sure if the bottom half of your post was meant for me because it's addressed to Sun, but if it was, I thank you. Well, I thank you anyway .

H would never approve of me paying for a sitter when I don't work, and whenever the opportunity comes up for a relative to watch the kids, I take full advantage it . I agree that H should try to give me a day to myself. I would appreciate that very much. Maybe I could discuss this with him when we talk more about the poker thing and ask him how he would feel about that.

Thanks again, D and mollie, for stopping by. I really appreciate it.

JV

"I can't change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination."