H just called. He's had 2 customers call him that need service, and he really doesn't feel like dealing with them but knows he should so (STBX-boss) can't give him any BS about not paying H the rest of what he's owed. I think he still owes H about $2K, and that's not including this week's work.
H vented for awhile as I just listened and validated. Then H said, "I don't know what to do, JV. I'm just so fed up with this s**t. I've been trying to get a hold of (STBX-boss) all morning to see when he's going to give me the rest of my money, and he isn't calling me back. And I'm afraid if I don't take care of these people then he's going to use it against me somehow like deducting what it would cost him if they cancelled their service.....I just want to get my money from him so I can just not give a s**t about him anymore."
I told H to take care of all the loose ends that he could so (STBX-boss) wouldn't be able to find any sort of ammo to use against H. I told H, "I know you said a few days ago that you really didn't care at this point, but I feel you should still bill (STBX-boss) for the things you're doing this week. You SHOULD be paid for them even if it is only a little." H said he knew that and he would.
H then said, "Tell me everything's going to be ok, JV. Tell me everything's going to be alright in my head." I told him everything was going to be fine then he said, "But it's not. Nothing's fine in my head. What am I supposed to do?" I told H, "Look. I know how hard it must be for you right now, but you should try not to focus on so much negative stuff. That's why you don't feel right. If you could just try to think or focus on something positive, no matter how small you think it is, it'll help you feel better even if it's only for a little while."
H said, "Maybe I should just focus on the kids because they're the only thing good right now." I told H then try to do that, and I also said to him, "And you know what else? If you want to do what you said about using $5K for your poker bankroll, then go for it." H asked, "What was that?" I told him again, and I said he should do it.
I think H was really happy to hear that. He said "thank you" in a very sincere way -- I've never heard it come from him like that before.
JV
"I can't change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination."
Valerie
"I can't change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination." ~ author unknown
