Trying to find our way to happiness II

[ValerieA]

Hey there, Scottisheart! I hope you're having a great day as well.

"Would he have done this normally?" -- No, I don't think he would have. With his depression, I think the "norm" for H would've been for him to say something like, "Yeah....I remember'em, too." That's why I hesitated when H asked me to finish my sentence, but to my delightful surprise , he didn't.

IMO, a perfect little example for why we should not ASSume .

Ok....We didn't watch any movies last night after all, but that was alright because I was actually very tired, so we just watched some recorded programs instead. Well...H watched while I nodded off here and there .

We finally went to bed around 1am. Poor H has a sore throat. He said he's had it for a few days now so I told him to take some Sudafed Severe Cold tablets and he did. Ooh -- writing this just reminded me about the other vitamins H hasn't taken yet. Hmmm...I'll see if I can bring this up to him later tonight.

H held me close again last night , and he woke up feeling a little better today.

H is out doing service calls right now. I've got laundry to do , and I've got to get S9 and S5 working on cleaning up their room as H brought this up before he left.

Time for my list:

+ POSITIVES +

+ LOTS of affection going on between us (hugging, kissing, ILYs, smiling at each other )
+ H's very positive moment of telling me "we'll get'em back".
+ EVERYTHING that H expressed to me just days before returning home. It showed me that H feels very safe to open up to me .
+ After reassuring H that we WILL be fine, he is much more upbeat and looking a little more like himself again.
+ When the subject of C came up, H said he would think about it. I know it's not a "yes", but I'm taking this as a small positive.
+ And of course, ! I'm going to try to initiate more tonight !

- NEGATIVES -

- My small ASSumption of what I thought H would say when I said, "I remember those times." But luckily, H proved me wrong .

* THINGS TO WORK ON *

* Getting H to take the other vitamins (5HTP/multivitamin/B50). It needs to be done, so I think I'm going to have tell him I spent $$$ on them to get him to take them. H could consider this to be pressure, and I will try to go about it VERY gently. Hopefully I'm ASSuming again .
* Keep working on reassuring H and being supportive of him. Always.

Thanks for listening.

JV

"I can't change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination."