Trying to find our way to happiness II

[ValerieA]

More journaling for today :

H has called twice since my last post. He will be home tomorrow ! He's leaving AZ in the morning, so I don't expect him until the late evening.

H was full of stress and fears in his first call. He said, "I think this is it for me with working for (boss).....I just don't know what I'm going to do for a job, JV. I really don't know, and I'm so worried."

I told H, "Babe, you really should try not to worry and stress yourself out so much. You can't control anything that is going to happen.....I really think you could use a month or so off from working. We are going to be fine.....I know I've mentioned this to you before and so have you, but maybe you SHOULD look into starting your own small business. You could be doing something YOU WANT TO DO. You would be your own boss, you wouldn't have to answer to someone else all the time, and you could make your own decisions. I know it would be a BIG change, but it could be well worth it."

H said he'd like to, but he has no idea what kind of business he'd like to have. I told him he should really consider this again, and I will back him up 120% like I always have. H said ok but he didn't know what to do for now. I told him again not to worry. I told him I thought he should take a month or two off while continuing to look for something else, and maybe I could even try to find a little something that I would be able to do out of the house. H didn't say anything in response to that.

Then he told me that XXXXXX (his former co-worker in Oregon) said if H would sell this house and move us up there, he will give H a job that will earn him $10K more than what he is making now. H would still be doing satellite installs. I asked H if that salary was guaranteed, and he said yes. H said the area where we would move to is great for raising children. I asked H to find out all the specifics so we could talk and think about it more. He said alright.

When H called back the second time, he was soooo upbeat !

He was watching the basketball game and asked me if I could record some programs for him. I told him I already had the timer set . H said thank you.

H also told me about his and (bf)'s encounter with a rattlesnake earlier today ! It was crawling right in front of the front door -- YIKES! Those maniacs ( ) actually CAUGHT the thing with a pole and trapped it in some sort of box! Oh! -- and took pictures ! Geez! BTW, a few hours later, they saw that it had escaped . Luckily, they were smart and SANE enough to have kept it outside ! I swear those two are just overgrown boys !

I told H, "Oookaaay. I don't know about moving to AZ now ." H said, "Oh, no way. No way. After working here in all this heat, there's no way I could manage living here. Plus, I don't want to be anywhere near (STBX-boss)."

H chatted with me for a few more minutes then he said, "Are we going to be alright, JV?" I said, "H, we're going to be just fine." H said, "Alright. ILY." I told him me, too, then we said goodbye.

Thanks for listening.

JV

"I can't change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination."