JV....Two positives for you. One that you are seeking out counseling. I think it will help you a lot. It sucks you have to ask him for the money. But I wouldn't feel bad about asking. Or another possibility could be maybe if you got a part time job for awhile and you wouldn't have to ask him. But I know that can be hard with a baby and a husband that is away so much. But I did notice you mentioning he can find a career woman if that is what he wants. Does he resent that you are a SAHM? Would he be prepared if he is resentful of this to stay at home and watch the kid's while you work?


Also I would just think back to how he was about his phone during the A. Does it bring about these feelings in you because he wouldn't answer the phone then? Was he easily aggitated with you like he has been the past couple of times? One thing I have noticed is that a lot of people are very defensive when guilty and not wanting to get caught. Just be prepared. But also realize you could be wrong.

Another positive is you do have your parents to go to now. I bet it felt great to be able to vent and get some of the heavy burden off your heart. It hurts even more to hold it all in and not be able to talk to someone. Like getting that hug and understanding from yout mom felt great I bet. If your children opened up it shows that this is also hurting them and they may be picking up on all the fighting.