Quote: Remember how I wrote H left the house before 2pm? Well, the time on the receipt was after 3pm. H told me he went to Old Navy right after he left the house....so I guess it takes him an HOUR to pick out a black and a white tank top?! Then since he returned home at 5:30pm, I guess he made it to San Pablo, Emeryville, Brooks, Pacheco then got home all in 2 1/2 hours???!!!......I hate saying this, but I do believe my H was lying to me . I didn't say a word about it though....(sigh).
I would just keep your eyes and ears open and be prepared. He may be doing nothing at all. But his actions seem very weird. Is it possible this OW gets moved around to different GAP stores? Or even possible transferred to this store closer? I can't really say I blame you for checking the receipt I know I would to. I know there is a BIG difference I think in checking up on someone who hasn't caused any reason for any mistrust. then in someone who has and has admitted it. You are still hurting and it will take time for that hurt to lessen. See for me I would be thinking did he have to go say good-bye to someone else before he left on his trip?
But he told you before you could check up on him anytime didn't he. So he shouldn't get all moody. I know this isn't a good thing to do constantly. But in your case you are still hurting. It is still fresh for you. He seems so weird and private about things like his cell phone. Has he always been this way with the cell phone? See maybe I am reading more into things but maybe this is the type of a person he is. It seems starange to me because at any given moment of a day I could pick up my husbands cell phone and use it or get a number from it if I wanted to call someone. Sometimes I forget my phone and use his. Never ever has he reacted by getting mad or pissy about it. It's like just natural and vice versa if he uses my phone. I guess sharing you could call it.
The chest pains you experienced could be due to stress. Do try to take it easy. Also could have been indigestion. I have heard indigestion can be really bad and painful in the chest area. Why did he tell you to continue with the treadmill? Does he like you to maintain a certain weight or tone to your body? Or was he saying this because he likes you to exercise for your health?
That is sweet he was so concerned about you. That does show love. I would have told him though that maybe this is from the stress you have been under. Not to put burden on him. But that he could see his actions can be hurtful and have an affect. I don't think he really thinks about his actions or words. About him looking at the woman I know it hurt. But is a very natural response for a man to do this. (unfortunately) They say a man wouldn't be a man if he didn't notice the opposite sex. That's where the old saying comes in look but don't touch.
Whjy did he say he is quiting drinking? Also don't completely believe him about the eating disorder being under control. I have never seen anyone cure themselves from this disorder without professional help. But often times when they are found out they will keep telling their loved ones they have stopped. Were you able to get him those vitamins? I know you mentioned before that he was pretty over weight. Was he that way when you guys married? Was curious about this. Did him losing weight and then having the affair happen around the same time?
See for me I would be thinking did he have to go say good-bye to someone else before he left on his trip? 
I know this isn't a good thing to do constantly. But in your case you are still hurting. It is still fresh for you. He seems so weird and private about things like his cell phone. Has he always been this way with the cell phone? See maybe I am reading more into things but maybe this is the type of a person he is. It seems starange to me because at any given moment of a day I could pick up my husbands cell phone and use it or get a number from it if I wanted to call someone. Sometimes I forget my phone and use his. Never ever has he reacted by getting mad or pissy about it. It's like just natural and vice versa if he uses my phone. I guess sharing you could call it.
I would have told him though that maybe this is from the stress you have been under. Not to put burden on him. But that he could see his actions can be hurtful and have an affect. I don't think he really thinks about his actions or words. About him looking at the woman I know it hurt. But is a very natural response for a man to do this. (unfortunately) They say a man wouldn't be a man if he didn't notice the opposite sex. That's where the old saying comes in look but don't touch. 
