Jv you said he said this...
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Last night when we were in bed, H said out of the blue, "I need for you to believe me that I did not go to Old Navy to see OW. I just wanted some new shirts, and I guess I just wasn't thinking." I thought that was kind of weird. He was talking about something that was brought up on Thursday or Friday I believe.




I just don't get it..have you asked him this. Why on earth would he shop at the same store where the woman he had an affair with works at? I would ask him this and let hin know it hurts you. Ask him how he would feel if you had an affair with a manager of your local grocery store but yet shopped there still. I think your husband would blow a gasket.

Last night there seemed to be some positives. But he knows it's time to butter you up for a day or two and then he can do what he wants. I have seen this from many of your posts that he has this tendency. Unless you are persistent I don't see him ever changing. He dfoesn't have to address his behavior anymore.....because he feels he is forgiven and all is forgoten. It will keep being like this unless you put a stop to it and let him know you won't tolerate it. Also unless you do speak up when things hurt you like the gift thing how will he ever honestly know how you feel. You tell him it is okay and that's what he hears. I noticed you said he told you last night that he would do what you wanted him to do. Was that as in leaving? And he was doing this while playing. Instead of seriously?