Trying to find our way to happiness II

[ValerieA]

Hello, molliew. Thank you for stopping by.

I totally understand what you're saying.

I'm not sure if you are completely familiar with my whole sitch. My H tends to have these very positive moments with me when something is said or done to show him that I'm getting fed up with the negative behavior coming from him. Then after a day or two, he's right back to that "moodiness", but I DO get what you are saying.

When H gets back this afternoon, I will try telling him how much I enjoyed last night's interactions. Maybe I'll even try to get him down on the floor myself to create another possible positive time for us, and if he's home tonight, I'll suggest watching the movie he rented. Who knows? WE might like it .

I guess I wasn't giving him my undivided attention last night (or any of the past few nights) because I felt he wasn't giving his to me since he was out all those nights. I suppose if my friend did this to me, I might feel neglected. Point taken .

Thanks for the recommendation. I will consider getting the tapes.

I know it's all up to me, too. I do want my M to work, but sometimes it's really hard to actually "work" on it when everything seems to keep repeating itself over and over again .......PATIENCE, PATIENCE, PATIENCE.

Thanks again, molliew. I truly appreciate your advice.

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Journaling:

I realized I left out a couple of things from yesterday afternoon and last night.

In the afternoon after H got off the phone with his boss, he said, "I don't know, JV. I'm just really scared because I don't know what the future holds. For us, for the kids, with my job. I'm just scared. I guess I've just got to stop worrying so much." I suggested (after he asked) that he should check out the Internet like monster.com or whatever to see what he could find. I told him I know there's got to be something in there for him that he would like to do. H said he might do that.

Last night when we were in bed, H said out of the blue, "I need for you to believe me that I did not go to Old Navy to see OW. I just wanted some new shirts, and I guess I just wasn't thinking." I thought that was kind of weird. He was talking about something that was brought up on Thursday or Friday I believe.

JV

"I can't change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination."