Wow, you've got a load of positives in here! I wonder what would happen if when he asked you if you wanted something you said yes and then thanked him when he brought it? What would happen if you watched the movie with him even if you heard it wasn't very good and thanked him for bringing it home? What if you went into the kitchen with him and helped make a snack for both of you? What if you told him how nice it was to wrestle again and to spoon in bed? What if you told him how comfortable it felt? What if you warmed up to him a bit and tried to trust and forgive? What if every time you saw him you smiled and said "hello, how are you?" What if you got up from the computer and gave him your undivided attention? What if you went into your best friend's house and she behaved to you the way you behaved toward him?
I hope I'm making some sense to you--I think he is really trying. This stuff doesn't happen over night.
I highly recommend Michelle's KLA tapes too. I've been listening to them and being reminded of different things I can do to keep my R healthy. Don't depend on him to do anything right now, even though is taking baby steps. It is all up to you. This has worked so well for me and I know it can for you too.
