Quote: H asked for a hug, and I (sadly) reluctantly gave him one. He gave the baby a kiss goodbye while I was holding him, and then he gave me a kiss on the forehead. H also made a remark about having later, but I told him too bad because it's that time of month now. H said, "Damn.....Is that why you were being so mean yesterday?" I said, "No, YOU were being mean." H said, "Oh."
He seems like he just doesn't get it. You asked him to move out and again he asks this of you. If there is one thing I think you need to do right now is be very consistent with whatever you say and do. He thinks he can manipulate you at anytime. That way he can continue to be selfish and only think about himself.
But in telling him you didn't care if he got your SIL a card and a gift and not you I do think that was wrong. Because in order for someone to know what hurts you you need to be vocal about it. Because lol expecially men they can't read minds. I think in your marriage you may have done this a lot. Just said you didn't care when deep down it hurt.
If there is one thing I think you need to do right now is be very consistent with whatever you say and do. He thinks he can manipulate you at anytime. 
That way he can continue to be selfish and only think about himself.
