Yes, I have told H many times that I don't appreciate it when he talks to me like that, and many times he will respond with, "Well if you wouldn't make me mad then I wouldn't," and that's ME putting it nicely . My H can be very verbally vulgar and offensive when he wants to be and always apologizes soon after.
If I told H I had plans when he wanted to go do his thing, he probably would flip! But I bet if I did that, he would be out the door even quicker so that I couldn't leave.
Also, yes, H has always complained about the cost of everything -- I mean EVERYTHING! Even on our honeymoon, when we went to Maui, ...... everything. NEVER when we were dating though, but then again, I was working and we didn't have a family then either.
H probably does think it's ok for him to act the way he does because he knows I'm not in a big hurry to go anywhere. You know, there was one time when I DID leave H, and I had forgotten all about this. We weren't married at the time, but we did have S9 who was only several months old then. I can't remember what we fought about (probably something VERY STUPID ), but I did leave him and came back after a week or so after H called me and begged for me to come back to him, and there have been other times when I've gotten so close to leaving him again but never did. I think H knows this, so I think this is why he doesn't take me too seriously.
I feel like this R is getting further and further away from being salvagable.
JV
"I can't change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination."
Valerie
"I can't change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination." ~ author unknown
), but I did leave him and came back after a week or so after H called me and begged for me to come back to him, and there have been other times when I've gotten so close to leaving him again but never did. I think H knows this, so I think this is why he doesn't take me too seriously. 
