Trying to find our way to happiness II

[sage]

JV -- Sorry all this is going on. I think you did really well with what sounds like a painful interaction.

Your h's questioning of you (want me to leave? want to keep feeling like a doormat?) was interesting to me. IMHO, he wasnt suggesting that you ARE a doormat...more that you are feeling like one -- there is a difference, right?

I also think that his "you could have tried to catch me in a lie..." was interesting as well -- because it showed (me, at least) that you weren't trying to trap him AND he wasn't trying to lie.

Isn't it possible that the two of you are both trying and scared and each pretty gun shy?

I'm not saying go into this blindly at all but is it all possible that h's desire to move to AZ might be a way for you both to feel as though you're starting over? I can't recall what the draw is for him there but if it's a lifestyle change (better job, less stress, something more in line with life goals) maybe consider it? Or at least consider what his desire to do that might mean in terms of where his head is at?

Not much help here but support

Sage