JV You said......
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A few moments later, H whispered, "I don't know what to do, JV........Do you want me to leave?" I was very hesitant to answer. I felt like saying yes and no. H asked again and said that if I did then he would. I let out a sigh and said, "No....I don't WANT you to leave." H said, "Do you want to keep feeling like a doormat?" I said, "NO, I don't WANT that either." Then H whispered, "Well I know this probably isn't the right time for this, but can we have please?".........Well, I'm almost ashamed to say that I couldn't refuse . It HAS been awhile since we last had , and what better way to release built-up stress ?



To an outsider looking in this sounds soooooooo manipulative of your husband. I don't want to be negative but really this is my opinion as an outsider reading what you wrote.

Him......Do you want me to leave?
Him Again.....Do you want me to leave if you do I will.
You...No I don't WANT you to leave.
Him....Do you want to keep feeling like a door mat?

Okay stop here. That was such a rude thing to say. It's almost like he was admitting he knows he treats you that way.

Then okay he says...do you want sex?
You.....yes

The way I look at it he thinks he can treat you anyway and can manipulate you back into his arms any time he wants no matter what he does and how he treats you. If I am right he knows you are close to not tolerating his behavior anymore. But he saw he can manipulate the situation and now he will act as if all is okay. Because if you think about it okay he knows your crying and distraught and hurting very much right now. His arrogant ass gets a tattoo and tells you how he thinks he will hang around there because they are cool people. He is out again and you are at home hurting. It just angers me because clearly his proirities aren't in check right now. He only thinks about himself.