JV.......I think you did good and were able to get a lot off your chest. I think that is why you feel calm. It hurts so bad to hold this stuff in.

So his story is that before he went on his trip he went clothes shopping with his friend? Does he normally shop for himself? Why on earth would he shop at Old Navy if that is where the OW works? And then when he got to Oregon some guy he was working with there happened to buy him an Old Navy shirt from the Oregon Gap? Maybe ask his best friend if they went shopping together.


JV......((((((((((((hugs)))))))))) Try to keep your chin up. Maybe he needed to hear these things. Maybe this will let him see he needs to change. You are tired of being treated this way. And maybe most of all it may make him see that he needs help badly. I think he desperately needed to know that you loved him. To me that speaks volumes that he said that. But also he knows that even though you love him doesn't mean you will tolerate being a door mat.

There is a great post over on the sex starved marriage forum that was started by a poster named CSW. There are a lot of people on this board that give really good advice to people who have had an affair in their marriage. CSW is going trhough something similar. Maybe you could stop by there sometime.