Oh JV I am so sorry you are hurting. ((((((((((((Hugs))))))))))))))))) to you.

I know this has to be hard on you. And it doesn't help with him adding to it. Again do try to make time for yourself. I am just wondering if he feels like your not strong enough to live without him. I honestly feel like your husband does love you deep down by the things he says. But maybe your 180 could be to look like your super strong on the outside for now. Put his words back into his mouth. Start doing things alone when you can find a sitter. Like last night could have been a perfect opportunity for you. He was taking time for just himself to do whatever and he knows JV will be sitting home waiting on him. Next time he goes out like that I would try to get a sitter and just go out. Let him call home and get no answer. Let him call your cell phone a couple times then answer. Then maybe awhile later call him and say oh I see you called. I just decided I really wanted to go out tonight so I went with some friends. Start enjoying your life right now instead of allowing him to tear you apart. Maybe that 180 will turn him around and he may actually sense what it would be like to lose you. Just like when he goes away next week don't talk to him. Spend some time away from any contact with him where you can sort out your feelings. If you see it's him just let the kid's answer. If he asks for you just tell them mommy is busy right now doing X. Because honestly maybe if he see's what life will be like without you, the woman he loves but has gotten into the habit of hurting and treating any old way, he may wake up and be able to see what he is losing.

Is there any way you can check his phone record? It does seem weird that he would freak out like that about his phone. But then again he is moody a lot anyway. I know it's not good to check up on them but I don't know I feel as the wife you do have the right to know. Maybe it's nothing and he was just moody. The night he had grass on his shirt did he appear like he had been drinking when he got home? Another thing about depression or anxiety is a lot of people become heavy drinkers and turn into alcoholics. They want to supress what they are feeling.