I definitelly fall back on the advices I received right from the beginning. I got to tell you though, my H said to me that when I became all sexual and sensual early on when he still wanted the D and nothing else- I freaked him out. I do believe that the persistance and show that it's here to stay and not to entice and drop definitelly did a lot of good. Other changes in me as well - ability to talk about the issues and not just do the silent treatment and then a big blow up. Being appreciative of things he did at that time as well as the things he did in the past and I did not tell him/showed him that I appreciated. Owing up to a lot of things that before I just hid back as a dark secret...there is no one magic thing I did but rather the combination of them all.
