I'm sorry your having one of those bad days. As far as the condoms go, I would of course been wondering where they went..., but where would that get you now. Do you feel the threat is past? Will digging up the old dirt help? Has he been acting honest with you? Where are you going to let this discovery take you?
As far as gifts go, (IMHO!)that is something given by someone that reflects that persons feelings for the recipient. You really shouldn't be telling the other person what to buy for you. Maybe suggestions if asked. Limitations, if threat of improriety. But an issued buy list, seems to me a little too much. Perhaps he will buy you both.
My main response would be, don't throw away all your hard work over something such as what was bought for an aniversary. What is your overall goal? Will this get you there, or move you further away? Don't forget the basics.
