You are absolutely influencing it. Remember how you feel (as you told me) when you project a positive attitude, versus negative.
She wants something (you have no idea what?); she calls and stays on the phone, try the Wes approach, ask.
It is natural to go through self-doubt, wondering if it is all worth it; as we said, after they quit.
But remember everything we tell the newcomers, it is not about the WAS, it is about us. DBing may not revive the R or M but it is about us and our attitude and belief and actions and reactions.
Hell yes we get tired of people telling us how to feel, act, react, etc.
But truth is, we know what we want, we know what we believe in our core. We may not achieve our ultimate goal, the revival of an intimate R with the woman we love.
These reminders are not just for you, but for me and everybody else here. Find the person you can be and want to be and maybe like the first time, she will be drawn back to you and if not, truth be told, though we will have a hard time convincing ourselves, she is missing out.
