I don't know what it is. I do really need to self-evaluate. It's probably part of a cycle. I'll address in order.

UD,

Her attitude about marriage is okay, except I read in the part about some things can't be overlooked. Referring to the step-kids issue.

BTW, heard you mention Iowa City on another post. If you are going to be visiting let me know. We can meet.

Looking at September 24. Not quite sure I can make the reunion but I'd really like to.

Jo,

Is there something else wrong, Wez? Because I can't see what would piss you off unless you're just sick of DB'ing??

I just can't see what she's done to make you so pissed off.

I don't think it's so much what she has done. I haven't heard anything much from her. It's me. I'm looking at my R/sitch with a critical eye and I think I'm starting to get a walk away mentality. My ex is fine, except for being a quitter and unrealistic of the difficulties of a blended family, but I just don't know whether I want to restart a R with her and her children when I'm already far behind the 8 ball. Maybe I'm looking at the easy way out. Just walking away from this. After a month or two of no contact maybe I won't even miss her anymore. Single life isn't so bad and I have the freedom to do what I want.

Oh btw, I'm a younger woman but I have kids and a crazy X

Yeah, I've seen your website...rowwwlll. Your crazy ex-H doesn't scare me. At least you know what it means to make the sacrifices for a marriage and already DB. If you only lived here.

How did you get to read your XW's email??

I know her e-mail passwords. I know...bad me. I'm going to quit. There is nothing in them anyway.

Bruce,

You're too old to keep up with the young girls

Blah. I was thinking mid to late twenties. Maybe a sugar mama so I can retire. he he he

Maybe you have reached the point Michelle talks about, when it is time to move on and be "realistic." We all go through these stages and I've learned, they vary sometimes daily. But only one person knows in their heart, when it is time

I don't know. It's not like my ex is angry, resentful, hostile and irascible so I'm not sure if I've reached the point where I need to be realistic. She still has feelings for me, sure just disgust, but I can work with that. he he he

In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years.
Abraham Lincoln

It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed.
Theodore Roosevelt