I don't have anything to say about interactions with my ex. I'm really kind of sick of her at the moment. I actually kind of enjoy it when I'm upset/angry. It helps me at least look at things through something other than rose colored glasses.

Here's an exerpt from my ex-W. Advice/support given to another mother who recently was a WAW. Her complaint...what do you do when Mr. Wonderful turns out to be Mr. Terrible. But here's a later exerpt. I know...it's not GAL to read her e-mail.

Quote:

I'm sorry for your rocky road. I don't think your being angry or mistrusting is wrong at all. Marriage is a big committment and when someone drops their end of the deal, it feels really shitty. It's hard to know why people do the things they do but I also know that every relationship has it's ups and downs. I look at my parents and think to myself that I know they've been through some difficult times together but somehow they stuck it out but there are some major issues that just can't be overlooked or stuffed down or whatever. I think two people have to be on the same page and one person can't carry the relationship. Yeah, the page might change a little and need some turning but as long as two people want to work things out/stay together bad enough, that definitely helps.
I really don't think there's any easy end of a relationship process. I know you're not in a mood to feel good about the future of your love life but that may change in time. Surprising things happen when you least expect them and sometimes it renews your hope in some things you gave up on a long time ago.
I think you should find comfort in whatever it is you need that isn't harmful to you or to others. There's nothing wrong with a little escape...
Take care of you.



Commitment to the marriage. Straight from the horse's mouth. Seems a little bit like hypocrisy, but I think she figures our marriage had one of the "but there are some major issues that just can't be overlooked or stuffed down or whatever"

Don't bother saying it. I know none of this is healthy. Unless I'm seriously considering giving up and moving on. More of the rollercoaster. But what if I really did just give up like my ex did because the going was too tough? I want to really badly at the moment. It feels liberating. I've been working on GAL and need to do more of it, but I think life might be better without her in it. I've got the old Bruce attitude before he was influenced by all of us...."this woman quit on everything". I hope you don't take that wrong Bruce....it was realistic.

BTW, I did get a step-parenting book. It looks like it will be okay, but it won't do me a whole lot of good right now. But considering that many divorced women have kids I might as well read it for the future. Either that or find me a much younger woman with no kids.

In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years.
Abraham Lincoln

It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed.
Theodore Roosevelt