Exactly what I needed, a little scolding. I actually took the advice you gave and reread previous thread. Know what? You're right. Things went better when I connected on the level that appeals to her...talking. But I did sound more confident. The difference the last week or so is I have worried too much about how she would react/did react and abandoned doing what is comfortable for me. And I like the term "internal jumpiness". That does describe this feeling.
So I called and asked if she wanted to take the kids to the wave pool. I figure "what the hey". She was fine with that idea. I took Bruce's advice because that is really the heart of all this isn't it? Live like I want and not like Mr. Rodgers wants me to. he he
Thanks for cheering me up.
Thanks for the advice. I'll try to get rid of some of that "jumpiness".
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
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