Quote: But let me throw this out there. My ex drove 400+ miles to do stuff together.
EVERYONE here agrees she wants to be around you, this is not the argument or question. The problem (and I may be COMPLETELY off) as I see it, is your reactions and actions toward her.
You strike me as the love-struck teenager having to talk to her constantly and be around her and afraid if you don't keep her close, she will find something or someone else.
You mentioned she intiated the calls, great, let her. Don't chase.
I may be wrong here, but this is the perception I get from your interactions.
Relax, take a deep breath, for everyone's sake. She wants to be around you, focus on that, the present, not what can, might, could, should, would possibly happen.