I completely agree with Bruce of course. It is CLEAR in your case, more than any of us here, that your W wants you. She just does not know how the MECHANICS of your relationship (when you are living together) are going to work out. She is trying to protect her kids as every good mother should. Now, it also clear, that more than any of us here, your are in a state of attachment that is making it difficult for your W to come back to you. DB101!
You have to start looking at a time frame of a year, Wes! Not today or tomorrow or even next month. Now, the ONLY way in which you can keep from making all the mistakes that one makes while in the attached state is to get a life (apart from the relationship). And focus on the main problem that you have, i.e. how to work on your relationship with your step-kids over the next YEAR.
Wes, I for one would really like to see your goals in regard to GAL and self-improvement with regard to managing kids and step-kids. I am sounding like my mother here but I hope this helps you.
UD
The 3 laws of DBing:
1. PMA is critical to DBing.
2. Since drop in WAW's PMA leads to drop in LBS's PMA and vice-versa detachment is critical.
3. Validate to raise WAW's PMA and GAL to raise LBS's.
