Wez,

FACT:

You are in a R with your XW even if she won't admit it. She is in denial.

You are lying on her bed in your underwear and NOTHING else, massaging her, and she says you're not together?? What utter tosh. You are.

That's called DATING.

If you were my H and you sat on my bed in your undies I would just jump on you.

In fact, your XW is probably really frustrated. Never mind just being a man and needing willpower, women need willpower to withstand that!

She likes you, MORE than likes you, otherwise she wouldn't let you touch her and hang out half naked in her house.

Jo.