Happy Friday to you too. Thanks for the advice on places to go. My kids are 13 and 11 so plenty old for science and nature (plus they like that kind of thing).
In response to this:
Quote: it seems like the only way to break out of this orbit in which our WAWs keep us is to move away and hope that they come to you. But first you have to earn their trust. This takes a seemingly endless amount of patience and hard work.
That follows the vein that I agree with...the "first you have to earn their trust" part. Maybe I'm just rationalizing my behavior, but a problem with the LRT and going dark is that you are counting on them missing you. But if you go dark at a time when they still think you are the unchanged jerk that they left I don't see why they would have incentive to miss you. I agree that at some point I can't orbit around my ex anymore but I would like to have shown through my actions that I have changed for the better and that I'm someone she would like to pursue. Since I'm going to be gone most of next week I think it will give us each a break to reflect. I think the difficulty is figuring out to what degree and at what pace you start to move away.
As always thanks for input.
P.S. Maybe I am trying to be Gandi. I was only wearing underwear while giving massage and taking the nap so....I showed quite a bit of willpower.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
