Man, I envy your interactions with your W!! Even though I am sure it is extremely frustrating to go thus far and no further....Yikes, are you like trying to become Mahatma Gandhi or what? You are putting yourself to the test there, man. BUT THAT WAS A GREAT EXAMPLE of a 180!!!! I mean, being so close to your W and not initiating sex? I think you just did great. And from what I have read in M/V women love that. And also you demonstrated that you were in control. Excellent performance!!
It takes time and I have really sucked at it but it seems like the only way to break out of this orbit in which our WAWs keep us is to move away and hope that they come to you. But first you have to earn their trust. This takes a seemingly endless amount of patience and hard work. I am just getting to that stage where I think it is time for me to act like I am making an exit. Note that when you played hard-to-get your W pursued you. Of course when you return the favor she will run. It is a really crazy stupid dynamic and seems to get played out ad infinitum. I also tend to think that the WAW likes to have that gravitational power over you where she keeps you in that orbit. I think it would change the dynamic if you just ceased to orbit around her. That requires a lot of GAL and act-as-if.
But, man, am I jealous of you.
Hey Wes, I live near the Chicago area and there are some great museums to see if your kids are old enough :
Museum of natural history, The Art Museum, Musueum of Science and Tech. "The miracle mile" on Michigan Avenue is a fun place to hang out. All the museums are within walking distance from the miracle mile. It is a fun place and I hope you enjoy yourself.
UD
The 3 laws of DBing:
1. PMA is critical to DBing.
2. Since drop in WAW's PMA leads to drop in LBS's PMA and vice-versa detachment is critical.
3. Validate to raise WAW's PMA and GAL to raise LBS's.
