The saga continues..never going to the dark side

[Just_Me]

Hey all,

Update and musings on something Jo said on Gabriel's thread.

It is a way of keeping you near to her and ensuring you don't fall in love with somebody else, esp. the offer to hang out in her house.

She wants to own you without the commitment. I think you did well to say no.

I worry that's what my ex is doing, just keeping me close without commitment.

Here's the perspective. Last night I get home and ex-W is mowing the lawn. I was exhausted so I lay down for a bit. After she's done I call her in to the bedroom (yes...initiating) and pat the bed for her to lay next to me. We have a little discussion about the day and then I give her a massage which is something I used to do quite frequently and she always enjoyed. Still does, even from me. She relaxed nicely and enjoyed it. I ended just essentially touching her face softly. One big difference is that massages often led to me approaching her sexually. This time I completly refrained. No inappropriate touching at all. We ended up napping for a bit next to each other. It was really nice.

After that she asked if I wanted to go to her parents for dinner. I was hesitant partly because I ate there last night (without her) and felt like a mooch. I said I shouldn't for that reason. She said "you probably should". I told her I had stuff to do. She asked again and I said "I'd think about it." Before driving off she asked again if I was going over there and I said I had to get some stuff done but give me a ring. She called back in 15 minutes to say it was okay with her parents if I came. It seemed she was pretty determined I go.

So I went over. It was a nice dinner. Cards afterwards. We got on just fine. Then she had to dash since she had forgotten to do some work.

That brings me to today and the question of what kind of pursuit the weekend holds. My intent is to not initiate and to avoid anything physical should we do something together.

Hope everyone has a nice weekend. I'm really stoked because my kids will be back this weekend. WooHOOO!!!! I'm on vacation next week and we're off to the Six Flags near Chicago. If anyone is familiar with other fun things to do in the Chicago area let me know.