The saga continues..never going to the dark side

[sage]

I'm not sure which part you think you'll get blasted for (maybe the WA part?) but I don't think there's anything amiss with really thinking about why you are doing "this"...it makes real sense, don't you think, to figure out if you're being motivated by true desire for her, simply wanting what you think you cannot have, somewhere in the middle or something else entirely? In fact, I think it could be really liberating (and motivating) to say "yes, this is why I'm pursuing this" even if the motivations turn out to be a mixture what one might label "positives" and "negatives".

I guess I'd add, I don't think you want to live forever in the mulling over state (not that I think you will because you're so action oriented) but if it gets you closer to figuring out what your goals are, well, that sounds like a good thing to me.

Happy anniversary -- I think you asked if you should do anything...how about a phone call that lets w know how much you appreciated some of the things about your M? I wouldn't suggest going over board but I can't imagine that she wouldn't be positively responsive to a "I really appreciated the times that we had together" call.

My two cents, as always,
Sage