Thanks UD,

I needed that. I haven't been able to find the Deida book yet, but I'll try the library later. It sounds good.

I fell into the classic pitfall of cornering her and then believing what she said.

I'm okay today. I'm all brushed off now and going to get back to being friends without that stupid pressure I was applying. And letting her initiate.

She did call several times yesterday afternoon. I was at the movie at that time (phone was on manner mode...didn't answer). I watched Cinderella Man...if you haven't seen it you should. I thought it was very moving. Actually in my emotionally weakened condition I was ...tearful. Anyway, I called her back when the movie was over. She said she was calling to see if I wanted to go with her to pick up the kids (100 miles away). Then the later call was just to see how the movie was. I told her it was great and she should go. When she said she'd rent it...I did do a little pursuing (wasn't really thinking that at the time...just stoked about the movie) and said "you got to see it on the big screen..I'll take you".

Tonight her kids come over to sleep in the tent. That was prearranged before this little setback. So I guess I'll see her tonight.

Ta Ta everyone. Have a good Monday.


In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years.
Abraham Lincoln

It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed.
Theodore Roosevelt