Quote: I can't tell what my ex is thinking, (I probably wouldn't really want to!) but his actions still tell me at times that he enjoys being around me. And I enjoy his company, so we start there and move forward w/whatever may come.
Hey guys,
I never suggested I was not open to a new R with X. But I do not believe this is her intention. She was the one who wanted out of the R for a myriad of reasons. And yes, I would like a second chance to not make the same mistakes we made in the past.
But I cannot mislead myself by believing every time I see her or talk to her, she is thinking about a future R. I know I was guilty of overreading her behavior and then being disappointed when she failed to meet my unspoken expectations.
Yes, it is much better to have positive interactions with her. I read so many situations here where the X's barely speak and are hostile. I do not want that. But I also cannot continue to convince myself her actions have additional meaning.
Yes, it is ultimately about being a stronger, better person for ourselves. And as we know, DB in no way guarantees you will revive your R or M or get the person you want back in your life. Should the opportunity arise and as you develop new relationships, I hope we are better equipped to deal with them.
