Thanks for responding. It seems these musings are often just rhetorical. Especially when we start bringing what are ex-spouses are going to do or think.
UD, I don't think it's safe to assume my ex-W doesn't want a R with me right now. I think she does want some form of R with me, but it's more likely that she wants only friendship rather than an intimate/romantic relationship. From that standpoint it's best to assume she doesn't want the kind of R that I would want.
It's interesting that you mention activities to fill the time with. My ex's thing is e-mailing with other mothers and having occasional group chats with them. I think it sounds fun for her. But when the chat is done the other mothers go back to their lives with husbands and children and family. This activity may fill some void for the ex, but I doubt that it will be lasting. I mean, this doesn't fill any voids for me. It gives me people to bounce ideas off of, someone that understands my situation, and a sympathetic ear, but at the end of the day I'm still crawling into bed alone (except for the cats).
I know this is a really long process. For me there is quite a bit of uncertainty whether she will leave town before we get anywhere in this process. I need to get complete by then. Doing the things I want to do and being the person I want to be. I'm not there yet. Essentially I feel like I'll only be there when it doesn't make a difference to me whether we are together or not.
Thank you for your thoughts De jevu and UD. I'm going to digest them for awhile. My thoughts aren't going in a good direction right now.
Wes
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
Especially when we start bringing what are ex-spouses are going to do or think. 
