Quote: LRT as techniques for you to work on yourself and not to be employed as a tool to pry the WAW mind open.
Guys,
All valid thoughts. I think this goes back to my comments of worrying about how our actions affect them. I say do what you are comfortable doing? If you enjoy contacting her and she does not recoil, then why not? But, as you are aware, you are doing ALL the work and I don't imagine getting the payoff you subconsciously desire, though will not admit out loud.
You want an intimate R again, to have a second chance, to make amends for the mistakes you both made. Does she want this? Only she can answer, but I imagine you have an idea.
Right now, it is easy for her. She gets to play family and still have the life she seeks.
Quote: From what I know of interactions with my WAW, she is very confused. In fact, my WAWs' memory is so shot sometimes (they are under a lot of stress too) that she is not thinking straight.
UD, you got after Wes for speculating what his XW is thinking, but propose to know what your WAS is thinking?
Truth be told, we have NO idea. We can guess from some of the generic comments offered. But none of it really makes sense to us, so it is difficult to even understand their behavior.
It goes to the question raised here on Gabe's and others posts, what, if any, kind of R do we want with the WAS?
