LDW and HDH working on it

[doglover]

Hi all,

I haven't had much time to post or even read this BB for the last few weeks due to guests, travel, etc, but thought I would pass on the following:

Last monday our counselor loaned us a video, "the Secrets of Sacred Sex". It is based on Tantric sex. Life being a bit hectic, we forgot to watch it until last night when we "did our homework" for this evening's MC session. I thought it had a lot to recommend it. Haven't had a chance to really discuss it with Mr DL yet but will later today. The video might be a little graphic for some - there is nudity and frank discussion - but it is really more of an educational documentary style, NOT a porno film. I thought it quite tasteful.

In general, it emphasizes slowing down to better appreciate one's total sensuality. There is also an emphasis on enjoying good communication and having some encounters be "just for him" or "just for her". The Eastern spirituality dimension can seem a bit silly if one is not fully into that way of thought (dancing in front of one another semi-clad, undulating to increase the flow of sexual energy, could take some getting used to for this klutz).

But it seems to have the benefit of ritualizing some behaviors which could be quite helpful - looking at one another while ML, ML on a regular basis even if one is not initially "in the mood" which includes "daily devotions" [which are first thing in the a.m. daily - possibly brief and possibly not carried to O - intervals of physical and spiritual intimacy], and using ML to "nurture one another" [so that rather than needing to "feel good in order to ML" one anticipates ML will make one feel good].

Anyway, that's just a sample, but I thought it brought up many issues that were relevant to me and my H and could be to others as well.

Unfortunately, the 1994 video is somewhat expensive on Amazon - approx $100. But there are probably books that deal with the same topic.

Hope the summer is going well for all,
DogLover