Quote: Very hard for me to figure out how to balance everything I need and want to do. M needs to be primary, but there's the job, the family (kids in their 20's but still an ongoing relationship), friends and ongoing community activities. Not to mention our individual hobbies which don't always mesh.
You have to realize that your husband has this big pulsating, painful area in his heart and soul in regards to making love with you. Everytime you push him down a few levels of importance, you take a pointy object and poke him where it hurts. You can poke enough to where it will callous over and that part of his heart will never be accessible to you again.
Why couldn't your hour of work be accomplished afterward, rather than before?
Most of us live incredibly busy lives - it seems to be the predominant curse of modern life. I look back at my parents' schedule and daily life and they never approached the hecticness that is part and parcel of my life.
I would hazard a guess that once your husband experiences being number one in your life for a while and can trust that it won't go away, that there will be a relaxation of neediness.
