Yeah, the thread title matters. Think informative yet optimistic, yet eye-catching.
Our sitches are very similar. W and I are from blue-collar families, definitely not blue-blood. As a result, we struggled as a pair with much more financial press than our counterparts, and we have paid the price for it, in different ways, but also in terms of the M. I don't know how helpful it would be to think of her wanting to 'upgrade' from you to a snoot. My guess is that its more of the additional struggle the two of you had.
If so, you can do tons to undo that in her eyes by doing loads of self-love/work, moving to strong PMA, and feeding her with this optimistic attitude whenever she's around you. Such strengths can't be bought or inherited from affluent parents, or picked up in ivy-covered buildings, and she'll be drawn to that plus likely admire your accomplishments and stance so much more given your shared roots than those of her colleagues.
