I am pondering the pros and cons of friendship with WAW post D. In some ways, since we have a D3 I will have to interact closely with W. This will be good for D3 and to maintain an R of some kind with W and hoping that it will go somewhere. However, I feel sometimes that my W has carefully planned and manipulated the whole process of extended separation (2 years!) and then D in such a way that it is a soft landing (I may be just hallucinating here). In the talk last week in which she expressed intent to pursue D she said that "we have evolved now to a stage where D will be fine"!! So, in a way being friends is what she planned for and what she wants. She will not have to experience the pain of the D if we just make it a natural extension of the S. I dont know. The ultimate reasons that she stated for the D was "I just cant seem to make it back into M, I have changed, I think it is my personality" and there is no (apparent) OM, although there has been an EA I suspect. Is the friend approach just giving her exactly what she wants? On the other hand what choice do I have?
Will post goals today. Thanks all.
UD
The 3 laws of DBing:
1. PMA is critical to DBing.
2. Since drop in WAW's PMA leads to drop in LBS's PMA and vice-versa detachment is critical.
3. Validate to raise WAW's PMA and GAL to raise LBS's.
