It is good to hear from you. I see that your XW has been very much in need of your company. I gather that in your case there is the technical issue of dealing with the integrated family. I have no experience with that one and hope that I never do. But I see several positives in your situation.
Your observation on WASs expecting a miracle to make them fall back in love again is well taken. It does not work because there is too much negative history that they have stored in their brain and they just cant flush it out. And they are very scared. Fear and love cannot coexist. My W appears to be headed that way because she feels that has not happened, so she has no options. You are also right about just letting her go. I have done everything possible in the past couple of years to show that I care and that I want to work on the R. All I can do now is to stay the course and let her figue out what she wants to do. And to DB my posterior off....post-D.
I am going to take Gabriel's advice seriously and ask myself whatI want to do to have an R with my W and forget the stupid M. And I really need to lighten up. I think in the past year I could have prevented the D if I had let go some more. I really have much to learn when it comes to relationships and things.
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The 3 laws of DBing:
1. PMA is critical to DBing.
2. Since drop in WAW's PMA leads to drop in LBS's PMA and vice-versa detachment is critical.
3. Validate to raise WAW's PMA and GAL to raise LBS's.
