Thanks for your prompt response. I look forward to hearing from you. I am a novice to this board and am still trying to get the hang of navigating. So please bear with me if I am lax in replying to responding on your posts. I have you in my favorites however and the uncanny similarity of our situations definitely needs exploring. BTW, my W is from FL and I lived in FL myself for 14 years. I recall that your W has Iowa connections and we live in Iowa now. So, lots of intersections....
I downloaded and read all your posts (yeah, thorough literature survey has been done) and noticed that you mentioned something in your wife about: pride, coming into her own, finding herself, feminism, LD. All of that I see in my wife as well. W came from a rural background in FL. So she had a lot to prove. She resents all that from her childhood. Her dad was highly macho (construction worker, hard edge, big guy) and I am not that type of person at all (skinny academic, glasses, nerd jokes typically involving calculus, difficulty with plumbing and oil change for car etc., well you get the picture). Anyway, after my W became "empowered", she has begun to picture me more as a wimp than as a erudite guy (which is why she was attracted to me in the first place- I was once the anti-daddy, now I am the anti-Christ). So, what was once a positive is now a negative for me. But short of steroid injections I will have to change that image solely by demeanor rather than by physique. Actually, in that context the marathon helped. But, alas, it was short-lived. Anyway, I welcome all comments and suggestions and name calling. Thanks.
The 3 laws of DBing:
1. PMA is critical to DBing.
2. Since drop in WAW's PMA leads to drop in LBS's PMA and vice-versa detachment is critical.
3. Validate to raise WAW's PMA and GAL to raise LBS's.
