Just Married Last Year and W Wants To Call It Off

[Rob904]

Hi Everyone,

I just wanted to update everyone in regards to my sitch, and at the same time, wish everyone the best with their current challenges. Well....things between my W and I have improved much more in comparison to where things were at about a month ago. We have spoken about our problems, and have identified many issues that caused all our problems in the first place. We both agreed to take our situation "day by day". I never asked her to elaborate on what that meant, but I consider "day by day" to mean "slow and cautious reconciliation".

One of the things that I suggested in order to help her get out of her online addiction was the possibility of returning to college to complete her bachelors degree. After thinking about the suggestion for a bit, she thought that this would be a great idea. She acknowledged the fact that this could help her feel much better about herself. I told her that I thought this would be a great self-esteem boost and that it would lead to so many career opportunities that she always wanted to pursue, but lacked the degree for. I told her that I would back her 100% if she decided to do this. She said that all of this made her feel very happy, and it also made me feel very happy as well. This was the first time I have seen my W beaming with joy for a long time.

OK...this is where I think I need to interject a bit of a reality check, and get some opinions before I proceed further with my current sitch. It made me happy that we connected the way we did. I want to help her feel better about herself, and she did admit that going back to college to complete her bachelors would help her to feel MUCH better...BUT...she is still in contact with OM. This is where I need suggestions as to how to handle this. Should I hold off on helping her with this to see if we can fully reconcile our marriage first? Or, do you think I should run with this now in the hopes that this will help out our current sitch even more. Like I said before, my main problem is that she is still in contact with OM, but I don't want her to think I'm issuing any ultimatums at the same time. PLEASE...any suggestions would be GREATLY appreciated....