It's good to know that even in the 11th hour, there is still hope.
There is no 11th hour. The only thing I see as an 11th hour would be right before someone dies.
Detach. Cut off contact as much as possible. GAL. Make her feel that she is losing you... A cheater's worst enemy is their own mind.
Heatherg, I followed that advice back in March, after I got the clue when my WAW bristled at a whiff of an idea that I may not be in contact with her anymore. So, I did go dark, for about a month, but because of an errant phone message for her that came my way (person called up her old number... mine), I broke no contact by emailing her just that message. And the floodgates opened: she immediately responded, enthusiastically worded email wherein she wrote that she thought I didn't want to hear from her but she's wanting to write or call.
Now, in one sense, going dark, since it heightened her appreciation for me, seemed to have the result of bringing out her realization that she doesn't want to lose me, in a manner of speaking, but it didn't prompt her to pursue or regret. Maybe the no contact period wasn't long enough, maybe darkness wasn't the thing to do? In my sitch anyway.
So, I went back to being in consistent contact with her, and we've had more contact now since ever before, and so that seems to be what works... though I wonder if I should pull back again to prompt her "inner wife" (ha ha ha) to become even more enthusiastic when I emerge from the dark again.
I'm just bringing this up to point out that detaching and GAL are essential, but cutting off all contact has to be balanced and weighed and watched.
